Prepare for Your God-Ordained Spouse
Waiting for your God-ordained spouse is a journey filled with a lot of anticipation, as well as restlessness. This journey isn't just about waiting for the right person to appear; it's about becoming the person God has called you to be. Preparation is key, not only to attract the right partner but also to build a strong, God-centered relationship that can withstand the tests of time.
In this blog, we will explore why preparing for your God-ordained spouse is so important, and how you can take practical steps to align yourself with God's plan for your love life. Let's embark on this transformative journey together, and trust that God's timing and purpose are perfect.
1. Abstain from sex outside of marriage
Yes, God created sex but He created it to be enjoyed between husband and wife. If you are a virgin, stay that way! If not, make the decision to abstain from sex until you are married. Abstaining from sex is hard for most people, so you must rely on the LORD for strength and self-control. Not only will God give you strength and self-control but He will change your desires the more time you spend with Him.
2. Stop communicating with your exes, cut off all communication
(This does not apply if you have a child or children with them)
It’s not healthy to keep tabs on your exes when you are trying to get over them. More importantly, you should not allow them access to you, close the door and keep it closed! Set boundaries with your exes so they are aware that it is not okay to call, text, or meet up with you. No matter how difficult it may be, you have to make the conscious decision to let them go and cut them off.
3. Embrace your season of singleness
In today’s society, we define being single as hooking up with people with no commitment. However, in the sight of God, being single means being completely by yourself, specifically, when you are preparing for your God-ordained husband. When you are preparing to be with the man God has for you, it is essential that you embrace being alone. This is when you spend one-on-one time with God, get to know yourself, and heal from past traumas.
If you skip this stage, you will end up with the wrong person and continue in the same cycle.
4. Don’t idolize marriage
God created marriage because He did not create us to be alone. However, both individuals must be whole and complete before entering a marriage. It is unhealthy to think “I will be happier once I’m married” or “My husband completes me”. Yes, our spouse should push us to be better and bring us happiness, however, we should never feel like our value and joy come from another person, our value and joy come from God. Remember, God comes first before anybody else!
5. Understand the purpose of marriage
Last but certainly not least, before entering into a God-ordained union, you have to understand the purpose of the union. God did not bring you two together so you can look good together or to take ‘baecations’ and cute pictures. Yes, you two will have tons of fun together and look good by each other’s side, BUT… that is not the purpose of the union. God brought you two together for His glory and for His purpose. That’s why it is so important for you to already be walking in God’s will for your life before meeting your spouse. That way when you do meet your spouse, you both will be ready to continue walking in God’s perfect will together.
I pray you take the time to apply these to your life and prepare yourself for the man that God has for you.